How Can a Man Last Longer in Bed?

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How long do you spend in the bedroom with your partner ‘warming up’, and how much time do you spend on the finishing act? Do you think you clock above average when it comes to time doing the… as Quagmire would say “Gigidy gigidy gigidy oohh yeah”

The average amount of time spent on sex varies greatly depending on many factors. These factors range from what country you live in to whether or not foreplay is included in the definition of sex. It is therefore difficult to find credible sources that agree on this average statistic (some quote the time to be 3-10 minutes, while others testify that it’s 15 minutes to an hour). However finding consensus on foreplay time is much easier. The statistics agree that the average time spent on foreplay in North America is 19.7 minutes, with the UK topping the list with an average of 22.5 minutes.

So why spend so much time on foreplay? Well, for women especially, longer foreplay generally leads to better sex. Our brains are our largest sex organ, so taking the time to warm up our brains and our bodies can create a far more pleasurable experience. Foreplay not only increases lubrication and boosts the chances of a woman reaching orgasm, but it also gives biology (our hormones) time to catch up with our activity.

So how can you extend foreplay and still last longer in bed? Men, follow along closely, as these tips are for you.

Its important for all men to keep up with their Kegel exercises. To do your Kegels, simply squeeze the muscles you would use to stop the flow of urine, and then release. Twenty-five sets of these per day is ideal. Also regular masturbation is important because if a man hasn’t ejaculated recently, his chances of staying erect without ejaculation, drastically decreases.

You can also practice the ‘squeeze technique’ – while masturbating or during intercourse – this involves becoming stimulated up until the point of ejaculatory inevitability (point of no return) and then pressing firmly on the frenulum with two fingers until that feeling dissipates (the frenulum is a Y shaped connecting membrane on the underside of the penis connecting the head and the shaft). You can then continue to have sex or masturbate until the feeling of ejaculatory inevitability resurfaces, at which time you can continue practising the ‘squeeze technique’ and continue the cycle. This can be done alone or with a partner.

So gentleman….. when you hear the saying “Practise Makes Perfect”, remind yourself that it applies to many things. Good luck!

Female Ejaculation

Orgasm description: “Intense excitement of the body with muscular tension, rigid straightening of the entire body. Tingling and buzzing sensations grow suddenly, then palpitating rhythm and an intense explosion with a shooting liquid of incredible release! Relief and relaxation follow”

Was that written by a man or a woman? Most would guess a man, given the reference to what seems like an ejaculation. This however was written by a woman, in reference to her intense female ejaculations.

One might think that ejaculation would be a purely male prerogative, but in fact about 40% of women also experience a discharge of fluid at sexual climax.

As with male ejaculation, the fluid is discharged from the urethra. However in females, there seems to be two kinds of ejaculate! One kind involves a discharge of only a small amount of an opalescent fluid (only a few drops to a teaspoon), and it’s usually done so without great force. In the other kind of ejaculation, a large quantity of clear fluid is discharged (can be 100ml or more), and sometimes with sufficient force to project the fluid many feet away from the woman’s body. Some women have reported experiencing both kinds of ejaculation at different times, while laboratory studies suggest that they can also occur simultaneously in the same woman!

And just when we thought females couldn’t get any more complicated. Whether it’s orgasms or ejaculations…. if men can do it once, we’re doing it twice!

(What is this fluid you ask? Well if you really want to know I’ll explain, but sometimes ignorance is bliss. In males, less than 1% of ejaculate is actually sperm, the rest is predominately made up of citric acid, enzymes, fibrinogen and fructose. In women the low volume ejaculate comes from the paraurethral gland (homologous to the male prostate) and is mostly prostatic acid phosphatase. The high volume ejaculate is urine from the bladder, however it is very diluted suggesting that the kidneys produced diluted urine during sexual arousal)