Petals

Click here to watch a short clip on the making of Petals

Axe wound, bearded clam, catcher’s mitt, cunt, tuna taco, snatch, twat… all these words are common North American slang terms for the vagina. Funny? Possibly. Disturbing? A little. So what do they all have in common? A negative connotation to a beautiful body part.

Why must most vagina referrals be negative? Why has our society attached shame and repugnance to a part of the body that not only brings pleasure, but life itself?

Well I can sit here and ponder the origins of our sexual distain… blame the church, our patriarchal system, the Victorian era etc however the past can’t be changed, regardless of its origins. So, the future is what I look to.

How do we change these beliefs into something more positive? Well, we start with art.

The book Petals, by Nick Karras, is an amazing body of work which contains nothing more than the pure, untainted black and white photos of women’s vulva’s. As up close and personal as an eye can get, Karras captures the essence of true feminine form and diversity in these stunning images. No names, no faces, just raw uncensored genitals in their entirety.

I was moved when I first saw Karras book. Not because I was shocked by the images (although the diversity of the vulva is much greater than porn leads us to believe), but because I knew how difficult it must have been for the women to take off their cloths, release there inhabitations, break down the shame many have attached to their vaginas and spread their legs for the world to see.

That courage and that pride in their true feminine form is – in my opinion – something worth spreading. So… I spread it (pun intended). Karras new book, Petals 2, is a color version of his original and yes, I am honoured to say I’m in his new artful masterpiece. Of course I’ll NEVER tell which photo is mine, however I’m still proud of the fact that I was able to embrace my pulchritudinous vulva and spread my legs for the future societal path towards vaginal beauty.

So I leave you with this….. love canal, slice of heaven, honey pot, grassy knoll, jewel box, crack of heaven.

Smirking or Non-Smirking?

The room becomes quite and an air of anticipation fills the space. I’m introduced and immediately the giggles begin. A few brave souls who have situated themselves at the front of the classroom look down in the hopes of avoiding the slightest eye contact. I begin to speak but notice that my words suddenly become meaningless as soon as the dildo makes its first appearance.

Sex education has become a passion of mine since I started in the field. Perhaps it’s the combination of public speaking and the shock value I get from candidly discussing everything sexual that I enjoy so much. Or maybe it’s the feeling that arises when I can see light bulbs click on over the heads of the audience. Either way, I’ve come to enjoy the expressions that result from the words “Does anyone know what this is for?” (as I hold a 4 foot flogger in my hand), or “Let’s talk about all the health benefits to masturbation”.

Now don’t get me wrong, not all of my presentations have been hugely successful. I’ve fallen on my face while attempting to show the proper whipping techniques, I’ve ripped a condom while trying to demonstrate safe sex practises and I’ve offended a gorgeous transsexual woman by not using the proper cis-gender terminology. However, through these highs and lows I’ve learned a lot and I’ve gained an even deeper passion and appreciation for the sex education movement.

Because of this passion, and the fact that I’ve “NEVER” met a person to date that hasn’t had at least one sexually related question to ask me, yes thats a quote… and you can quote me on the quote unquote I’ve decided to extend the blog page to include your questions. Please feel free to write me any sexually related quagmire you may have in the ‘Ask Teesha A Question’ section of this page.
(All questions asked will receive a detailed response, and will be treated with strict client/counsellor confidentiality)

So, click on the link and spill your guts because I know you’ve been wanting to ask somebody!

Ask Teesha a question!

Cock Tales Anyone?

On Saturday a few girlfriends and I got together for some delicious cocktails. Now I’m not sure if this is common knowledge to all men, but when women get together for a cocktail, that often leads to cock tales… Saturday was no exception. 

We began with a little light sex talk focused around virginity, the pros and cons of holding onto it and whether or not women today are losing their V-card at a younger age. From here the topics migrated into the juicier realms of sex and fantasy, role-play, oral sex, anal, sex toys, positions, and the age old question: Does size really matter?

As a Sex Therapist I am slightly biased when it comes to this question as ‘science’ tells us that we only have ‘feeling’ in the first few inches of the vagina, therefore anything longer then 3-4 inches can in theory, get the job done. The ladies had some differing opinions on the matter, but all and all agreed that the effort put forth by the man (mixed with his ability to pull something out of his sexual bag of tricks every once and awhile) was more important to them then the length of his penis. Any thoughts?

(Side Note: Want to see if your penis is of average length? Instead of throwing away the toilet paper roll as soon as you’re finished with it, save it as a measuring stick. Next time you get an erection simply slip the roll over your penis. If your penis is the same length and circumference of the roll, you are of average length and width. If you stick out the top of the roll you’ve got some extra length, and if you can’t fit the roll over your penis then you’ve got some extra girth).

Overall the cock tales was a blast. We drank, told stories, and in the end… touched on more taboo topics in one afternoon then many do in a lifetime. Wouldn’t you have loved to be a fly on the wall in that room?!

Well the good news is you can be! We brought a small camera crew along for cock tales and will be posting our weekly discussions on our YouTube channel: CLICK HERE TO WATCH!

My Most Mortifying Experience in Practice (Otherwise Known as the Day I Threw a Dildo at a Client)

My first day in clinical practice was pretty awful.

A couple came in to see me because the husband was having erectile issues. I was asking him how he masturbated and whether, when he did, he went all the way over the top of his penis or not. He clearly had no idea what I was talking about, so I decided to demonstrate on a dildo.

I took the dildo – which had a suction pad on the bottom of it – out of the bottom drawer of my desk. Because of this suction you are able to stick it against a wall like an erection (this of course makes demonstrations much easier). So…. I was slamming this dildo against the wall as hard as I could over and over but it still wasn’t sticking.

I felt like an idiot.

So I decided to put it down on the table, and see if it would stick to that instead. There I was demonstrating the technique when suddenly I pull the dildo off of the table and it flies across the room almost hitting the woman in the face. She literally had to duck. It just missed her, whizzing past her head and hitting the wall on the other side of the room.

I was mortified. I told her, “I don’t know what to tell you, I don’t normally throw dildos at my client’s heads. At least not in the first session.” That was my very first paid client. Impressive, eh?