Loving the Porn, Maybe… Living the Porn… Probably Not

During my schooling I have been exposed to and watched more pornography than most do in their entire lives. Now don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining. Studying how the porn industries “Money Shot” has transformed throughout the years, is a lot more entertaining than any previous academia I have be exposed to. That being said, I have noticed throughout my sexual studies – as I’m sure many others have before me – that the porn industry portrays many things that are at best, a far stretch from reality.

Now most of us can ascertain the fact that the majority of ‘regular’ women aren’t a size 0 with perky double D breasts, and most ‘regular’ men aren’t 8 inches long and can sustain an erection for two hours. However I think there are many other factors portrayed in mainstream pornography that aren’t as widely understood as ‘fiction’.

For example, when watching your favourite porn, does the man usually ‘pull out’ right before he’s about to have an orgasm and then proceed to ejaculate on the woman’s face? Does the women not only enjoy, but also have an orgasm, in every position the man ‘puts’ her in? Does fellatio usually result in a forceful pushing of the woman’s head and gagging? Is anal sex a given? Is the women ‘ready to go’ within seconds of being touched on the genitals? I could go on and on but you get the picture.

I feel that in our society we lack proper in-depth sexual education and therefore many youth are driven towards pornography for this information. The problem? I get many people writing to me asking why they can’t achieve an orgasm quickly enough, why they don’t enjoy anal sex, why they take too long (10 minutes) to become aroused, and why they can’t last for more than 30 minutes in bed.

Just the other day I was told of a woman who was getting together with a younger man for the first time. They had been dating for a few weeks and really hitting if off. So one evening they decided to move things to the next level. Everything was going fairly well (except for the fact that he kept spitting on her vulva when they had lubrication by the bedside), when he suddenly ‘pulled out’ and tried to ejaculate on her face. Lucky for him, she was able to express her sexual distain for this behaviour in a mature fashion, but for a lot of women I know, that would have ended things abruptly.

Now I’m not picking on the men, women are just as susceptible to this new age ‘porno-thinking’. My point is simply that porn is somewhat like a Hollywood movie. Just because you saw it on TV, doesn’t make it true. Don’t believe everything you see in porn, and remember… communication (not penis size or thrusting speed) is what will make you a fantastic lover!

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